Boundary setting in real life

18 05 2010

Advice columnist Carolyn Hax gives clear instructions on how to be assertive in the face of a family member’s offensive comments, and what to do if the offender doesn’t listen. Brilliant!




2 responses

18 05 2010
Joanne Factor

In my classes we bring up dealing with this sort of aggression. I, as well as 99.5% of my self-defense students, have found that people who are “kind of joking” really aren’t, they’re trying to get away with saying mean stuff without accountability. Setting boundaries is very good, but having a long-term plan on what those boundaries are and how to set them in the face of a persistent pressure is excellence (and remarkable). Thanks for sharing this article!

18 05 2010
Lynne Marie

This is exactly the kind of boundary setting that I practice, model and role play with my daughter. It’s unfortunate that so many of us have to use our self-defense skills with our relatives. It is critical that we use this kind of family bullying for as a lab for teaching these boundary skills to our children.

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