Webinar Resource on Domestic Violence and Healthy Relationships

21 01 2014

The Northwest Network (in Seattle) is now offering a series of free webinars on various topics related to domestic violence and beyond.  I participated in the first one, which was a powerful combination of DV101 and empowerment model advocacy.  They also have a library of on-demand webinars that are directly relevant to any self-defense instructor  — among the topics are strangulation injuries, and intimate partner stalkers, and battered women charged with crimes.


From their website:  Founded in 1987 by lesbian survivors of battering, the NW Network works to end abuse in our diverse lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans communities. As an organization founded by and for LGBT survivors, we’re deeply committed to fostering the empowerment of all survivors of abuse.  The NW Network increases our communities’ ability to support the self-determination and safety of bisexual, transgendered, lesbian and gay survivors of abuse through education, organizing and advocacy. We work within a broad liberation movement dedicated to social and economic justice, equality and respect for all people and the creation of loving, inclusive and accountable communities.


Online Training for Child Sexual Assault

27 09 2012

Darkness 2 Light offers a low-cost ($10) online training called Stewards of Children for parents, educators, and other adults involved with youth to better recognize child sexual abuse, and give them some tools to interrupt the grooming process or get help for the child. This program began in 2004 as a live presentation, and in 2006 went online to a larger audience.

I began this online training yesterday, and so far it seems fairly basic yet comprehensive. Appears to be a useful educational tool for anyone who works with children.

Have you gone through it? Send in your comment and observations.

If you want to check it out, visit the Darkness 2 Light website and look at the very top for the Online Training Login (next to the social media buttons). Then let us know what you think.

Darkness 2 Light’s mission is to empower people to prevent child sexual abuse. Their programs are intended to raise awareness of the prevalence and consequences of child sexual abuse by educating adults about the steps they can take to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to the reality of child sexual abuse.

Amy Cuddy – powerful body language video

21 11 2011

This video from Harvard’s Amy Cuddy shows how powerful body language is effective. How, in just TWO MINUTES a day, you can change how you are perceived and treated by others.

Amy Cuddy: Power Poses from PopTech on Vimeo.

I’ve been teaching some of this for a while, and it’s good to see this as a resource. AND it can also influence how we are seen as self-defense teachers. Even though Cuddy’s work is more about business, it is easy to translate into a self-defense and personal safety context.

Must-Reads for the Month

7 09 2011

Here are a few items for your reading pleasure.

From the King County Sexual Assault Resource Center (in Western Washington), we have the first publication discussing how to talk with your child about sexual assault. Still highly relevant today, and He Told Me Not to Tell is now available as a free downloadable PDF:


If you want more from KCSARC (including shorter brochures/handouts), then check out this page of PDFs:  http://www.kcsarc.org/content/publications-for-parents-and-caregivers

American Journal of Lifestyle Medicine’s current issue is on the impact of violence on daily life. And, for a short time, you can download/read the articles for free. Great academic resource!


And, on a less academic note, does confronting men on sexist comments really make them nicer? You decide: http://jezebel.com/5837624/study-says-confronting-men-about-sexism-makes-them-nicer

Happy reading!

Integrating Movement into Your Self-Defense Classes, with Sonya Richardson at SDIC 2011

1 06 2011

We hope you have been enjoying these previews of the wonderful presenters you’ll be enjoying at SDIC-ST 2011…  And there’s more to come!  We are honored to announce that Sonya Richardson will be presenting a session on Integrating Movement into Your Self-Defense Class,this July.  Please see more about Sonya and this session, below, and go to our NWMAF website to register.

Sonya Richardson has been training in the martial arts since 1990. She received her 3rd degree Black Belt in Kajukenbo, the Gaylord Method, under Professor Coleen Gragen and was promoted to 5th degree Black Belt by her current teacher, Professor Barbara Bones. Sonya is Executive Director and Head Instructor of Kajukenbo Programs at Hand to Hand Kajukenbo Self Defense Center in Oakland, California. She also holds a Sandan in Kenpo Karate under Professor Gloria Boldizar. Sonya is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, having practiced for over 20 years.  Sonya’s teaching experiences include multiple offerings for AWMAI, NWMAF, and PAWMA national camps, as well as out-of-state and local seminars for community martial arts schools and the Kajukenbo Association of America. She is particularly honored to have served as one of two instructors for SDIC’s pilot Community Self-Defense Class last year. Sonya is delighted to attend and teach again at SDIC. She salutes and is grateful for the consistent leadership efforts of camp organizers.

“Integrating Movement into Your Self-Defense Class,” with Sonya Richardson

Self-defense and martial arts instructors use warm-ups for all ages and audiences. Movement and action-based ice-breakers serve as an effective method for students to become aware of their surroundings, introduce self-defense essentials, and explore an array of body-mind strengths. In addition, movement drills performed with partners or in a group among class participants help expedite development of trust and camaraderie — truly beneficial in creating a comfortable setting and optimal learning environment. In this class we will practice movement exercises as offered by the instructor as well as brainstorm new ones with one another.  We can use this conference class both to learn new material and share valued knowledge and experience we have with others.  Wear comfortable clothing.  The exertion level will be determined by each participant, but likely will be minimal.  This class is accessible to participants of all physical abilities.

Free boundaries workshop Thursday night!

11 05 2011

“If you have a hard time saying No, if drawing a line fills you with dread, if you frequently find yourself doing stuff you don’t really want to do, or if you are scared of sounding like a b*tch or a wimp if you set a boundary…”  consider signing up for “Guilt-Free Boundaries.”

Sounds like a great chance to learn some new ways to teach verbal skills—and this woman can do it over the phone! I haven’t taken this workshop (I plan to tomorrow), but I did take an in-person, experiential workshop with her on “Asking For What You Want,” and it was excellent! So why not grab a little professional development? Maybe I’ll “see” you there. –Lauren

Ann Burke, and Dating Violence Education, Coming to SDIC-ST 2011

4 05 2011

If you haven’t already registered for SDIC-ST 2011, this next presenter announcement will send you reaching for your computer keyboard… 

Ann Burke has acted with courage and persistence to turn her family’s personal tragedy into an opportunity to insure that our children, school personnel, and families in the public school system are educated about the realities of teen dating violence.  We are honored that she will be sharing her work with us in July at SDIC-ST 2011, and that our self-defense teachers, parents, and martial artists will have an opportunity to attend her sessions and learn more about how to recognize and respond to the signs of relationship violence.  We’ll also have an opportunity to hear how she has successfully worked to pass Dating Violence Legislation. 

Ann Burke is a registered nurse with a Master’s Degree in Health Education. She has worked for the past 24 years as a school nurse-teacher and, more recently, as a middle school health teacher in South Kingstown, Rhode Island. After the 2005 murder of her 23 year old daughter, Lindsay, a victim of dating violence, she founded the Lindsay Ann Burke Memorial Fund whose mission is to support the prevention of dating / domestic violence through education. She provides free workshops to health teachers in Rhode Island and donates free curriculum materials to their schools. In addition, she offers free dating violence workshops to school staff and parents. The fund also sponsors a yearly teen dating violence poster contest for Rhode Island high school students and has created a professionally-made training DVD. Ann also created a website  specifically for health teachers to use as a resource tool.

To honor Lindsay’s life, Ann has chosen to speak out and help others become educated about teen dating abuse. She firmly believes that schools have a responsibility to give students the knowledge and tools to recognize the signs of dating abuse in order to help themselves and others, and to have policies in place to protect all students. Ann worked for passage of the Lindsay Ann Burke Act, which passed in 2007.  This law requires all schools in Rhode Island to teach about dating violence through a comprehensive health education program from grades 7 through 12. It also requires training of school staff, creation of a dating violence policy, and recommends parent trainings.

After presenting to the National Association of Attorneys General and the National Foundation of Women Legislators, both organizations passed resolutions supporting Lindsay’s law and dating violence education in all states. In July, 2009, the state of Nebraska passed the Lindsay Ann Burke Act and in December, 2009, the state of Ohio passed the Tina Croucher Act, based on Lindsay’s law. Presently, there are several other states including the state of Pennsylvania either actively pursuing similar legislation or working towards that end.

Ann and her husband also co-founded the Love Is Not Abuse Coalition, along with the Liz Claiborne Corporation. Ann works with all of these organizations to help enact similar laws in other states. On June 10, 2009 Ann testified before the United States Senate Judiciary Committee, chaired by Senator Patrick Leahy, during their hearing on “The Continued Importance of the Violence Against Women Act.”  She testified as to the importance of prevention of dating / domestic violence through education and specifically urged Congress to fully fund the STEP (Supporting Teens Through Education and Protection) program. This program, part of VAWA, would provide money for training school personnel, developing policies, and supporting victims.

Please see Ann’s workshop descriptions, below, and register at NWMAF’s website for SDIC-ST 2011 today!

“Dating Violence: What Every Person Needs to Know,” with Ann Burke

Did you know that one in three teens experiences some kind of abuse in their relationships? Did you ever wonder why victims of relationship violence stay with their abusive partners?  Learn information you need to know about this major health problem, from statistics to how to help a victim.  Crucial information, such as the cycle of abuse, effects on the victim, how to help, and why teens are so vulnerable, are all included.  The best way to protect yourself and others is through prevention, and prevention starts with knowing all the facts.  Join us for a frank discussion of dating violence.

“Dating Violence: Making a Difference Through Education and Legislation,” with Ann Burke

Lindsay Ann Burke, a victim of dating violence, was brutally tortured and murdered in 2005.  As a victim, Lindsay paid the ultimate price.  But Lindsay’s family was also victimized, and had to learn how to live with the tremendous loss and effects of trauma.  Ann Burke shares her story of survival, her personal fight for legislation requiring dating violence education in schools, and how everyone can educate teens and parents through the use of basic curriculum materials.